Tuesday, February 22, 2005

So, what's the right thing to do?

What to do when your girlfriend is mad at you, and making it quite obvious? Theoretically, of course. What to do when this happens to you? What's the right choice of action? This is all a theoretical basis, of course, as if your girlfriend is mad at you for any reason.

Say she's playing the "You don't even care" card. What do you do? And why is she saying that in the first place? I see two things that you can do. One, you can keep your calm and try to reason the situation out. This, how I see it, is where she's getting the "You don't care" attitude. Second, you could yell right back at her. Maybe she could see this as a caring attitude? It boggles me, I'll tell you that. Personally, I'm more of a 'keep calm and reason with her' kind of guy. I've no enthusiasm for yelling at my girlfriend when she's clearly distraught. I know it's not her fault she's acting that way, she's a girl.

And you just know she's going to try to get you to yell at her if you don't. So what can you do in a situation like that? I'll tell you what I do... I fall into her trap. She knows exactly what to say or do to strike that nerve, and I fall into her trap almost every time. But I keep hopeful, I know that's what she wants. She wants me to take the bait and snap back at her, to show her I care, right? Not that I'm asking you if I'm right, I'm sure that's what she wants. So I retort and she gets angrier. But that's what she wants, she expects it. But what else could you do, if you don't take the bait and yell at her? She'll take it that you just don't care and she'll keep using that against you. And you know that all you want is for her to give in and give you a hug but we don't live in that universe. If you don't lose your temper, she'll get angrier and more distant and that'll just fsck with your mind.

Remember, this is all theoretical. Nobody is mad at you or me; this is all a 'what to do' discussion. I really don't understand why they don't stop when they get what they want. Forgive and forget, right?

-Forgive and forget